Reader Feedback 1.22.03

Doyle’s privacy

I find myself in the rather unusual position of defending County
Executive Jack Doyle in regards to the commentary by Chris Busby, “Mr. Doyle’s
Neighborhood” (December 31).

                  First,
I am naive enough to think that Mr. Doyle, even as a public figure, should be
allowed to have a private, candid conversation outside his home with his
neighbors without it appearing in newsprint.

                  Second,
what positives did Ms. Andrews and her companion expect Mr. Doyle to express
regarding the City School District? This is a school system where the majority
of students routinely fail to meet minimum requirements set by the state at
every grade level. The dropout rate or non-graduation rate of students is
higher than the graduation rate, even with dumbed-down requirements.

                  The
district’s financial ledger is buried in red ink, and the School Board is too
busy with petty infighting to help right the sinking ship they’re supposed to
be captaining.

                  Most
of us who have had experiences with the City School District beyond grade
school are equally as frustrated as Mr. Doyle. If Mr. Doyle had painted a rosy,
positive image of city schools, we’d be castigating him for being insincere or
for being out of touch with reality.

                  Third,
Mr. Doyle’s long-running feud and contempt for Mayor Johnson is a matter of
public record and is no shock to anyone who hasn’t spent the past eight years
living in a cave. Obviously Mr. Doyle felt his was a private conversation
between neighbors in which he was allowed to let his guard down and speak
candidly as though among friends, without those words being repeated to the
media.

                  While
I may not agree with much of what Mr. Doyle says or believes in, I do think
he’s entitled to have private conversations with neighbors and friends without
those conversations appearing in newsprint.

                  Nathan A. Brightman, Albermarle Street,
Rochester

                  Chris Busby responds:
First, candid comments by public officials, especially those of Mr. Doyle’s
stature, should be part of the public discourse when they illuminate the
official’s honest opinions on relevant issues. Second, given Mr. Doyle’s take
on the state of the city, the “Rochester: Made for Living” campaign the county
helps fund with our money seems insincere.

D&C, balanced

I had a good laugh reading your angry diatribe about the new
(Oh no! Conservative!) columnists for the Democrat
and Chronicle (Metro Ink, January 8). I mean, are you upset because this
infamously liberal Gannett paper is more fair and balanced than it used to be?

                  Read
the letters to the editor over the past few years; people are sick and tired of
the D&C’s mainly one-sided op-ed
section. Finally, the paper is giving the people what they want. Since God
knows when, the D&C has been
top-heavy with liberal columnists who did not reflect the beliefs and values of
many people of this area.

                  Its
liberal whiners and fearmongers include Deborah Mathis, Molly Ivins, William
Raspberry, Marie Coco, Richard Cohen, Maureen Dowd, Leonard Pitts, Mary
McGrory, and Camille Paglia, as well as the consistently liberal D&C editorial-page staff. You are
having a cow over Bill O’Reilly. Bill O’Reilly has a combination of liberal and
conservative positions. Does his not being an ideologue upset you?

                  I am
a Republican with moderate beliefs, who supported John McCain initially and
voted for Bush (although he is not impressing me lately). I viscerally dislike
Jack Doyle and resent his arrogant, unaccountable way of governing.

                  By
the same token, I think Bill Johnson is a befuddled, lousy mayor presiding over
the Fall of the Rochester Empire (cursed with poor diction). Louise Slaughter
is a totally useless congresswoman who always seems like she is going to blank
out on TV.

                  I was
a rabid liberal for many years, and thought Reagan and Bush #1 were the worst
and most despicable presidents ever because of their lack of compassion for the
poor. Then in 1998, I witnessed the hypocrisy of the left during Lewinskygate.
I saw the mean-spirited nature of liberals, and the pure hate on liberal sites
like bartcop.com and democrats.com. I became disgusted. Almost simultaneously,
my whole family, Democrats since the 1890s on some sides, became Republicans
and have not looked back since.

                  Although
I almost never agree with your positions, I thoroughly enjoy your paper and
look forward to every issue.

                  Michael Meggison, Rochester

On midwives

Thanks to Susan Herman for the excellent coverage of
end-of-life issues in “Midwives to the Dying” (December 31). I have cared for
dying people in both a personal and professional capacity, and I found this
commentary sensitive, insightful, and accurate. I particularly appreciated the
author’s inclusion of a registered nurse among those interviewed; nurses are
systematically underrepresented in the media, despite the fact that they are
the backbone of effective health care.

                  My
excitement about your article was tempered by a moment of disappointment. I
have spent the past decade serving childbearing families and working toward
becoming a midwife. When I saw the word “midwives” on the cover of your paper,
my heart leapt at the thought of a sensitive, insightful, and accurate City Newspaper story about midwives —
and then sank when I realized that story had not been written.

                  Like
hospice nurses, midwives care for families in hospitals, homes, and dedicated
facilities. Midwives give expectant mothers twice as much time during visits as
obstetricians. Midwives’ holistic, hands-on approach includes a focus on
nutrition, education, and emotional support. During labor, midwives provide
continuous, one-on-one care, and encourage techniques such as walking,
positioning, and hydrotherapy rather than relying exclusively on drugs and
technology.

                  Women
who use midwives instead of obstetricians are much happier with their birth
experience. Studies also show that midwives are safer, as well; for healthy
mothers, midwifery care results in fewer low-birth-weight babies and fewer
neonatal deaths.

                  Compassionate,
holistic care at the beginning and the end of life can ease these difficult passages,
and foster a sense of meaning, humanity, and growth for everyone touched by the
event.

                  Thank
you, Ms. Herman, for drawing your readers’ attention to some of these vital
issues.

                  Alyce Adams, RN, Brighton

Dealing with death

“Midwives to the Dying” (December 31) was most
interesting. Many of us have had experience with the death of a loved one. A
few of us have been fortunate to have some time before the death occurred. In
our case, my dear husband of 48-plus years was able to be in the hospice unit
at St. Mary’s under the care of a compassionate and caring staff. It was a
peaceful place for all of us to spend those weeks.

                  After
his death, I was helped through the dark tunnel of grief by members of the GRHC
Bereavement Services staff. Without their assistance, coming through that
tunnel would have been much more difficult. The group meetings, the seminars
and workshops all provided insight into the emotional roller coaster I was on.

                  I am
wondering if you might publish an article on Hospice care available in this
area. Then, follow up with information on how folks do get through the hard
work of grief with assistance from those trained to assist us. Because I had
known for so long that my husband could die at any time, I did not believe that
I would have any trouble adjusting to his death. But life challenges us even
when we think we are prepared.

                  Perhaps
you can help others to understand that, by reporting on the work going on by
trained persons who help us all.

                  Thank
you for opening up this subject to public discussion. Maybe you have started
the discussion for many. I hope so.

                  Jann G. Packard, Latta Road, Rochester

Dying myths

Much applause for the cover story on dying and hospice care
(“Midwives to the Dying,” December 31). Such articles are like candles lighting
the way out of the darkness of ignorance. As a volunteer at Isaiah House, I’ve
experienced the gentle, calm, and positive spirit that can permeate a
comfort-care home.

                  When
someone discovers that you volunteer at a hospice facility, they sometimes
express misconceptions about hospice and its care providers. The gap between
myth and reality can be large.

                  Myth:
These places must be depressing. Reality: They’re quite upbeat; people laugh,
share stories, and learn stuff.

                  Myth:
It must be so difficult to care for the dying. Reality: Usually not; there’s
always a nurse present or on call should a volunteer need help.

                  Myth:
Dying is a wrenching ordeal. Reality: Dying often involves stages of denial,
agitation, and acceptance but usually becomes calm and peaceful.

                  Myth:
It must take a really special person to be a hospice volunteer. Reality: Not
really, unless “special” means man or woman, black or white, young or old,
college educated or not, churchgoer or not.

                  The
fact is, as long as one is reasonably compassionate and is willing to help a
fellow human take the last earthly journey, one could become a good hospice
volunteer.

                  Giving
is a two-way street, never more so than in hospice care. I have yet to meet a
hospice care provider who has not felt that he or she has learned and benefited
immensely from the experience.

                  Rick Taddeo, Irondequoit

This article appears in Jan 22-28, 2003.